I am absolutely sickened every time I see one of those damn "you touch my daughter or think about her vagina and I will shoot you in the face" type memes online. I find it an affront to my feminist sensibilities Like her sexuality is something he owns and is his to guard. Being a dad doesn't come with the title to your daughter's body.
"The model of the overprotective father stepping in to defend his daughter from the evils of the world isn’t just about control of her sexuality, but about control of her whole body and identity. There’s a long social history of a parental sense of ownership over children, particularly when it comes to fathers and daughters; it wasn’t that long ago that fathers really did have total legal control over their daughters in many cultures."
The idea of this hasn't changed; there’s very much an assumption that fathers, less so than mothers, can exert control over their daughters in a way that is uber effing creepy. It is expected that men should “protect” their daughters . Protect them from the very real dangers of the world, or the perceived erosion of the value of their property? What other normal part of growing up and developing do men talk about not "letting their daughters" do? Do they suggest they don't want them learning to read until they are 30? Do they suggest they don't want them learning to do long division until they are 30? No. Because that doesn't involve their vaginas. ....fucking creepers.
A study came out recently showing that female sexual desire is just as strong and just as lustful as men's, unsettling conventional wisdom about sexual equality and monogamy. "Women want sex just as much as men do, and this drive is 'not, for the most part, sparked or sustained by emotional intimacy and safety.' When it comes to the craving for sexual variety, the research Bergner assembles suggests that women may be 'even less well-suited for monogamy than men.'" (http://bit.ly/ZRUdiX
So there is no "sweet innocence" to protect from the "horn dog monster" . Women have been trying to tell y'all for a long while now, we think about sex. A lot. We are sexual beings. But for some reason, that seems to be too much to handle. (So much so that “female Viagra” drug that was developed is concerning some that it may be too strong and that would be awful because lord knows what we would do if we had a strong sex drive.. oh my! http://bit.ly/ZRUdiX
I have explain to various men: you want to make sure your daughter lies to you, sneaks out, and trusts someone else with her ideas and questions about her body? keep that shit up about guns and threats and no dating until they are 30. She'll probably be knocked up before she is in college, too.
Talk to her openly, answer her questions with respect and honesty and she'll trust you will her questions and what is happening in her life, mind and heart. She'll be armed with the confidence and correct information to make the best decision for herself. Because like it or not, buddy, she IS going to be the one making the decisions for her body.